How to have "The Talk"....
No no no, we aren't talking about the birds and the bees.
The conversation we're referring to is what you want to happen to yourself and your assets at end of life. Talking about death with your family can be traditionally thought of as being taboo, however, communicating your wishes can reduce stress for your loved ones during a time of grief. Tips for having this conversation:
1) Be clear and concise - leave no detail up for debate in terms of what your intentions are.
2) Discuss both care and property - Make sure your loved ones know what you want to have happen from a personal care standpoint and also what you want to happen to your property. Property includes both your monetary assets and sentimental heirlooms. Heirlooms can often cause the most severe family discord when intentions are not made clear.
3) Put it in writing - This doesn't excuse you from having "The Talk," but having a will ensures your wishes will be fulfilled as you intend them.
4) Revisit the conversation regularly - Intentions change and memories fade. Make sure you communicate any major changes to those that will be involved with and have roles of responsibility with your end of life.
5) Make everything accessible! - Organize all relevant documents including will's, POA's, insurance policies, investment and bank statements, important passwords, etc. Put them in place that is accessible and known to your executor to ensure they have everything they need to handle your estate.